Start with why

Simon sinek is one of the best author in the field of life management. His first Ted Talk on 'The concept of Why' and the books written by him provide our world a new hope, a new dimension.

All his books are truly amazing.

One can find about him through the link https://simonsinek.com/about/simon-sinek.

His first book 'Start with Why' is truly amazing & inspiring to the people around us. The concept of golden circle and it's biological connection inspires us to think in altogether different direction. 

It says why & how 'Right Brothers, Martin Luther King, Steve jobs, Bill gates and many other people could do what they wanted. It's just because of the reason that they had a clear purpose, clear vision of their 'why' and hence they were able to think, act and drive a culture in their organization which is perfectly connected to their why & hence the people connected to them were able to work on what is required & how to do it to achieve the right goals at right time.

The concept, its biological connection, clarity & consistency, trust which this concept builds, effective communication, the new competition & the many more chapters of the book truly defines how the golden circle works and how different people respond to this concept. 

The examples which this book provides are truly practical and every human being can connect with this so effectively that it gives the  right inspiration.

This is the life's concept which can be applied in every aspect of life's journey be it business, marketing, profession, personal life, relationships, socio-political issues or litetally anything.

The  inspiration which this book provide is truly amazing.

Retrospection-2

 Life is all about its choices- the fundamental truth i always believed in. 

Today is time for retrospection & analyzing the choices i made in last 4-5 years. I found these years as the worst part of my life when my energy was at low, my belief system was going down, emotionally shattered & financially affected. 

When I think of these 5 years, I have only following to say-

a. Life is long & petty issues shall not have a big influence on our mind, body & soul, however big or small the issue is to us.

b. A person like me shall not be so much simple. Being simple is great, but being so simple that people can take advantage of the trust is the worst.

c. Life management is important to us, one set-back can't define/change ourselves to an extent that the life changes by 270 deg. 

d. Overthinking is the worst a man can go through, it doesn't make us better, in fact, it makes us the worst.

e. Sense of fulfillment & happiness is the best which we must have every day, every minute.

Even though my first love is the reason for all this, It's only me & my choices who/which is responsible for my present condition as the reaction to situation affect us, not the situation itself.

I just want to be free from all this trauma & enjoy the journey of my  life in true sense.

Many more to come.........

Tryst with first love

Love is a divine word. It's an emotion which can't be expressed in words. Having crush with a female friend & having love with a lady both are two different stuff altogether. 

I was not interested in luv-shuv during college days & being an engineering student, i was also not so lucky to get my girl friend.

Decided to have love with wife, somehow got married after 6 years (A long time, personal hiccups delayed it further) of professional life. 

The qualities which i wanted in the girl, i could find in her, but i missed to know her best quality. 

We got married 4.5 years ago, life has started to change 180 degrees. A lot changed, the definitions of relationship started getting re-established. 

The way she started behaving from the second day of marriage has surprised me somewhat & my family members a lot. Sometimes she was right, sometimes very wrong. 

Somehow my mother & she couldn't have proper relationship-reason is quite simple, she was expecting same as that of her mother from my mother without having that bonding & my mother wanted her to establish a bonding. In fact, i urging to most of her wishes made my mother more worrysome.

Things started flowing in place slowly, but not the way it should. In fact, i had to ask everytime about the environment so that everyone is okay or not, can be checked.

I loved her more than me and on top of it, i believed her much more than me.

But this luv-shuv ka dayra couldn't go far beyond 6 months. She had many more issues with my family & then she made me her target to come out of the relationship, I was literally in awe, could never imagine this. 

After a lot of deliberations from her side, i decided better not to continue with the relationship. 

I still remember some of the great moments & some memories with her like-

One of the best Indian couple outside india for a week.

The way she interacted with unknown people was fascinating for me, as I was introvert those days.

The day I called her for settling the issues, discuss & move ahead with re-kindling the issues, she said to convince her parents, after me talking to her parent, she become violent and then the abuse of my family, I couldn't tolerate this, on next day it was more than 60 missed calls, but i didn't want to go ahead with the relationship from that day.

The day she called me (just before the first judgement in dowry case) that do i still trust her.

Her words 'Na toh akal hai na hi aukaat'.

Then a long list of legal stuff, settlement with money, still waiting for formal divorce.

I still remember the 6 months of great companionship (although both families were not happy with many of the stuff). 

Still the 1.5 years of torture, 2.5 years of time buying & time torture post this companionship breaks me from inside.

The way she takes action backed by her parents really give me a thought is this the way a educated lady behaves.  

There are lot more to say, but i got hurted today again because of her, as her actions-inactions has forced someone else to cry who is not my family member till date. 

If there is any divine power within this world, please fulfill my only wish related to her- Give me freedom from her, legally, emotionally.

I just want to come out of her, without any emotions related to her & move ahead in life.

Log kehte hain 'Pehla pyaar sabko nahin milta, ek baar dil tootna bhi jaroori hota hai, but har kisi cheez ki limit hoti hai, is pyaar ne meri zindagi ke 4 precious years barbaad kiye hain, i just don't want to devastate my life further.

Please please please............